Chapter 21 | Your 15 Summer Essentials From Homegrown Brands

Nov 1, 2023 | Fashion, Interlude

Last week, CEC put out a call for South African designers and brands to share some of their key pieces for the summer season ahead. To say we were overwhelmed with responses is an understatement and this exercise proved my initial hypothesis for Interlude, our fashion column conceived some 22 months ago (this is chapter 21!). This hypothesis is something along the lines of: fashion in South Africa is accelerating in a big way and across many stratas of accessibility and price-points, stylistic considerations such as streetwear, contemporary apparel, luxury and ‘wearable art’. Interlude serves, in some small way, to capture this as it happens. 

South African fashion thrives in the realm of balmy, sunny days. This time is the most seasonally relevant and in and amongst our penchant for incredible dressing, is our intrinsically South African commitment to breathability, comfort and ease. One thing about South Africans; we know how to chill and how to look good doing it. For the purposes of streamlining this guide, we had to whittle it down to 15 pieces by 15 local brands; but don’t for one second think that this list is comprehensive or exhaustive regarding the brands that are creating the future of design. The most telling part of this submission process has been just how many young designers are realising their ability and visions – I refer them to Virgil Abloh’s FREE-GAME digital resource for taking an initially conceived design idea and making it into a solidified brand. This blueprint is one of Virgil’s many last legacies. 

Finally, some of the pieces featured are not necessarily the very newest offering by a brand. Rather, we opted to approach this guide true to the South African seasonal timeline; that is, brands know the power of perennial styles. To be a local brand in a small industry, is to not buy into the global industry’s penchant for constant newness and hyper-consumerism. These pieces are lovingly, locally-made and in adding these to your Christmas wish list or December style rotation, there is an assurance of sustainability-led and mindfully-approached support for South African fashion.

Cango Maxi | Rethread 

Alexa Schempers’ Rethread is the ONE for the gals. In our conversation with Alexa here, we learned that Rethread’s commitment to sustainable design covers three tenets: upcycled, new and vintage. The Cango Maxi dress has been a serious cult-classic – with Rethread customers snapped in their piece from Paris to Lake Como and back to Cape Town. Made by women in South Africa, the dress features a form-fitting corset bodice, drop-waist and a bubble skirt – conceived to flatter all bodies and babes. 

Purchase the Cango Maxi HERE

Jessica wears the Cango Dress by Rethread, photographed by EVOLVE Production

Monokini | P.Exotic

It’s been a minute since we caught up with the ‘Patron Saint of Pink’, Phuti Styles. So, when we realised her label – P.Exotic – has cooked up just about the sexiest piece one can imagine for summer, we were finished. Part of the label’s ‘WET’ collection, the Monokini comes in hot pink (duh!) or electric blue, with elastication for a better fit and breast support – and is made in a thick, double lined Lycra fabric. Perfect for the beach, the pool or on a night out – the Monokini is an essential. 

DM to order The Monokini HERE

The Monokini, Courtesy of P.Exotic

Staple Summer Vest | Broke 

Two things are true: a well-fitted tank vest is an essential – and so is owning a piece by Broke. We love the simplicity of this piece and better yet, we love the sneak peek by Joburg-based 99 Design Store of this piece in action; shot by Luke Ncube, 99 Design are about to drop their summer lookbook featuring a myriad of local brands for the season ahead. Made from 100% cotton, we urge you to stop by 99 Design if you’re in Joburg for this vest and to fulfil all your sartorial needs – they’re our favourite concept store right now. 

Purchase the Staple Summer Vest HERE or DM 99 Design

Broke Staple Vest by Broke for 99 Design Store, photographed by Luke Ncube

‘Another Country’ Football Jersey | Wanda Lephoto 

Soccer is an essential sartorial inclination in South Africa and few are more equipped to bring us a football jersey as thoughtfully conceived as Wanda Lephoto. Part of their 5th anniversary celebration, the ‘Another Country’ Striped Away Jersey features a ‘No.05’ along with other signature motifs for the brand. The shirt is a hybrid of various African nation flags and pays specific homage to soccer culture across the continent. 

Purchases the ‘Another Country’ Jersey HERE

Molemo wears ‘Another Country’ Football Jersey by Wanda Lephoto, photographed by Paul Shiakallis

Bell Sleeve Bustier | SELFI 

This one is for all our dreamy, ethereal girlies wanting to invoke equal parts fairy-maiden and structural, chic modernist. Celeste Arendse’s SELFI is known for its incredible ability to weave feminine, soft silhouettes through an architectural lens – particularly the label’s mastery of unique sleeves. The Bell Sleeve Bustier is form-fitting, 100% cotton and biodegradable, with the constructed bell-sleeve detail serving as the perfect, airy ‘long-sleeve’ for summer.

Purchase the ‘Bell Sleeve Bustier’ HERE

The Bell Sleeve Bustier by SELFI, courtesy of selfi.co.za

Broad Stripe Mesh Shorts | Human By Nature

We wouldn’t leave you hanging in the bloke-core era without a pair of shorts inspired sports. Human By Nature’s ‘Tokyo Athletic Club’ is a perennial offering by the brand, focused on athleticism as sartorial inspiration. The Broad Strip Mesh Shorts “reminisces on retro basketball aesthetics and colour schemes using the iconic colours of the New York Knickerbockers. Our double-lined mesh shorts, pay homage to the vintage Washington Bullets logo and feature a font reminiscent of the New York Times logo for a unique blend of nostalgia and style.” We love HBN’s unisex adaptation of their pieces – these shorts are definitely essential.

Purchase the Broad Stripe Mesh Shorts HERE

Whitney wear the Broad Stripe Mesh Shorts from Human By Nature, photographed by Mikayla McClean

Broad Stripe Mesh Shorts from Human By Nature, photographed by Mikayla McClean

The Soft-Shell Zip Up | Lazy Stacks 

Samson Ajibade’s Lazy Stacks has grown from strength to strength. One of the strongest streetwear labels in the country, this guide would be remiss without a piece by the brand – particularly their Soft-Shell Zip Up, as premiered at SA Menswear SS24. The softshell fabric consists of two layers, with a fleece which protects from cold and a dense fabric which reduces water and wind penetration – perfect for protection from Cape Town’s wind and our sometimes inconsistent weather around the country during the warmer months.

Purchase at INFLUHKS in Cape Town or DM Lazy Stacks

The Soft-Shell Zip-Up by Lazy Stacks, photographed by @27syx

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The Soft-Shell Zip-Up by Lazy Stacks, photographed by @27syx

White Denim Maxi Skirt | Me&B 

Mother-daughter duo Betina and Kelly are behind Me&B – and the brand has taken off across the country for women of all ages. As one of the most thoughtful, size-inclusive local brands in South Africa, Me&B is a one-stop shop for all seasons. Their White Denim Maxi Skirt speaks to the powerful return of the denim skirt as a staple. Repurposed from their Wide Leg Jeans, the skirt is 100% cotton. 

Purchase the White Denim Maxi Skirt HERE

White Denim Skirt courtesy of Me & B

Zoe Dress | Float Apparel 

If ever a brand epitomised a Cape Town summer, it would be Float Apparel. Influenced by the city’s surf, skate and street culture – Float are about to launch their summer lookbook, so we thought we’d look back to a piece from the year past. Still an essential, the Zoe Dress features an Argyle stretch fabric and is one size fits all; this is also perhaps the last chance to grab it. With an adjustable strap and one size fits all, Zoe is your ultimate beach companion and can we just say…THAT ORANGE. 

Purchase the Zoe Dress HERE

Whitney wears the ‘Zoe Dress’, courtesy of Float

Crochet Knitted Shirt | Patrick James 

Patrick James is a menswear brand to-watch. Founded on principles of contemporary luxe, the brand’s vision is to instil local menswear with quiet confidence, minimalist lines and clean design. Their Crochet Knitted Shirt is a vibe – we love confident men showing some skin – and is perfect for warmer days. Made from mid-wight luxury yarn and in a tonal shade of ‘Ecru’, this one is for the dudes invested in their tastemaking endeavours. 

Purchase the Crochet Knitted Shirt HERE

Crochet Knitted Shirt by Patrick James, photographed Andy Turner-Dauncey

‘Not A Boy’ Jorts | CRIPPLEDMND

Mphoentle Ramorei’s CRIPPLEDMND is for our grunge, punk babies looking to expand their wardrobe. Nothing has quite surprised us as much as the return of the JORTS – jean shorts and we are here for it. CRIPPLEDMND is y2k and 90s infused – with references to punk, Japanese Harajuku energy and more. This brand is one to watch.

DM to purchase HERE

‘Not A Boy’ Jorts by CRIPPLEDMND, photographed by @neverthoughtiwoulddoit

Recycled Swing Crossbody Bag | Sealand Gear

Sealand Gear is one of South Africa’s most treasured, sustainability focused brands. Specialising in gear and accessories (particularly bags), Sealand has reached cult status – least not for their commitment to the planet, enriched by the brand’s foundational story from surfing around the country and world, with the founders witnessing firsthand the crisis of waste and its effects on the oceans. Their Recycled Swing Crossbody Bag is made from ECONYL® Regenerated Nylon, “this range of gear is made from nylon waste that has been through a radical regeneration and purification process. Infinitely recyclable, never-ending possibilities. For the people and the planet.” 

Purchase the Recycled Swing Crossbody Bag HERE

The Swing Crossbody Bag by Sealand Gear, courtesy of sealandgear.co.za

High Neck Performance Top | ASA SADAN  

Imran Mohamed’s ASA SADAN is a suffusion of luxury, heritage, tradition and modernity. Drawn from the rich sartorial heritage of the muslim community in the Cape, their latest pieces introduced ‘ASA SPORT’ – a continued enhancement of the brand’s technically-minded design vision. The collection titled ‘Reclamation’ forms part of a wider, ongoing dialogue initiated by the brand, titled ‘Circle of Protection’. This was one of the most incredible fashion stories to land this entire year, with the show notes explaining:

Exiled communities from the East were brought to the Cape by the Dutch East India Company in their imperial expeditions to the Batavian region. Amongst these communities were high ranking individuals, such as rulers, royals, military generals and scholars. It was this initial diaspora community that founded Islam in the Cape.

Islamic scholars of these communities transcribed the Holy Quran from memory, and established institutions of learning to preserve and expand Islam in the region. This was concealed from the imperial regime, as religious practices and cultural traditions were prohibited from being practised, in an attempt to remove the individual and communal identity.

In commemoration of the pioneers of Islam in the Cape, known as ‘Auliyaah’ (pronounced ‘oh-lee-yah’) or ‘friends of Allah [God]’, special mausoleums or burial sites, known as ‘Kramats’, were erected in their honour at approximately 20 outdoor locations around the Cape Region, many of which are renowned for their historical significance and/or natural beauty.

According to local legend, the circular positioning of these Kramats (one of which can be seen in the film, at the foot of Signal Hill) around the Cape are said to have fulfilled an ancient prophecy foretelling the strength of the religion in the region. This is known locally as the ‘Circle of Islam’, beginning at Signal Hill, extending around Oudekraal beach to Constantia and Macassar, ending at Robben Island.

It is said that the orientation of the Kramats has delineated a ‘Circle of Protection’ around the region, a region where Islam and eastern heritage now thrive. 

The High Neck Performance Top is cut from lightweight, technical fabric and is the perfect second-skin for the heat. In the signature ASA SADAN orange, the technical wrap skirt is also one to consider. 

Purchase via ASA SADAN stockists HERE

Hishaam wears the High Neck Performance Top by ASA SADAN, photographed by Luke Doman

Cross Over Shirt | UNI FORM

Luke Radloff is one of the best designers in the country. It also remains a longstanding CEC dream to have his pieces from UNI FORM in our wardrobes. The label’s vision is to see Johannesburg known as any other major fashion capital and UNI FORM’s array of clean silhouettes and structural mastery are a testament to this. A shirt from UNI FORM is not just a shirt; it’s a symphonic expression akin to tailoring seen at The Row and the like. Seriously. The Cross Over Shirt is cut from cotton and draped to wrap the body – this is an essential. 

Purchase the Cross Over Shirt HERE

Cross Over Shirt by UNIFORM, courtesy of uniformza.co.za

Shopper | Porter 

We are obsessed with Porter’s answer to the slouchy, casually beautiful carrier. Made from soft knits in a variety of colours and patterns; Porter feels intrinsically Cape Town and evokes the movement and experience of an endless summer. Named simply ‘the Shopper’, there’s a reason it has been pictured by customers all over the world.

Purchase the Shopper HERE

Navy Green Stripe & Blue Green Swirl Shoppers by Porter, photographed by Enhance Retail

Pink Red Stripe Shopper by Porter, photographed by Enhance Retail

BW Check & Green Lime Large Shopper by Porter, photographed by Enhance Retail

Written by: Holly Beaton
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Lukhanyo Mdingi is Named The Amiri Prize 2023 Winner

Oct 31, 2023 | News, Fashion

Lukhanyo Mdingi and his eponymous label have been awarded the 2023 Amiri Prize. This award was initiated by Mike Amiri, founder of Los Angeles-based luxury label AMIRI, as ‘an inclusive annual award and incubator established to encourage, nurture and showcase up-and-coming talent from fashion and fashion-adjacent fields that otherwise might not have their voices heard.” The price includes a $100 000 and a year-long mentorship program with Mike Amiri. 

Lukhanyo Mdingi’s label has grown from strength to strength since 2015, marking it as one of the most important spaces for the sartorial, design-led growth of South Africa and the continent. The label “re-imagines and reinstates dignity and notoriety in their garment production with a small team based in Cape Town, while continually collaborating with artisans on the continent such as the expert weavers from PHILANI in Khayelitsha, Cape Town to textile artisans at CABES GIE in Burkina Faso.” This is another recognition of Lukhanyo Mdingi’s use of design as a vehicle for nurturing human ingenuity and craftsmanship, and further promises Lukhanyo’s purpose as one of the most important designers in the 21st century. 

We are so proud of Lukhanyo and his team -and what this means for the future aspirations and dreams of young designers in South Africa and beyond.

Burkina Collection by Lukhanyo Mdingi photographed by Jhonathan Baena
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K.Keed ‘Unpacking The Secrets To Her Success’

Oct 31, 2023 | Interviews, Music

There is an age-old idiom that exists within the confines of street knowledge which defines the cultural syntax of Hip-Hop as a whole: the phrase is “we came from the mud” The grimy, gritty, forsaken, dusty streets, projects, hoods and, in the case of South Africa, townships, a.k.a iKasi; where the collective consciousness of the majority is left for dead. This is a place where many have to become highly resourceful with the little we have, where we have to problem solve and turn our stories of agony into some kind of gold.

The Mother City has one such Kasi, Gugulethu, that has produced a profound leader of the new Nu-Skool. From early 2019, with her breakout single “Similies”, Mihlali Koyana, professionally known as K.KEED has made strides in becoming a force to be recognised. With milestones like being invited to perform at The Boiler Room:  Contemporary Scenes x Wear Broke, being selected as one of the artists for Redbat’s ‘Young & Dope’ campaign, freestyling on coveted independent Freestyle Platform “No Paperwork” being a Spotify Mzansi Raps Cover Star in addition to being an Apple Music Rap Life Cover star alongside eclectic producer J-Smash for their pivotal EP “IZANDLA.” These are just a few of K.KEED’s recognition and accolades, spanning a short blip of time relative to the decades long career it takes most musicians to get – well, anywhere. 

Throughout these short, sweet and impactful run of projects, including the “Tx3” series, “R E L I G I O N”, “ALTER-EGO”, & “IZANDLA”, we are on the cusp of receiving a full-length project from K.Keed, just as she is selected to perform at this year’s instalment of Rockin’ The Daisies. As a stan of the “Stru” hitmaker you can imagine the excitement of my Hip-Hop inner scholar when presented with the opportunity to pick the eccentric brain of this maestro of flow, cadence, collaboration, curation and production prowess.

From the decision to incorporate vernac into her style of lyricism and raw delivery, the discourse of freestyling, her approach to performances, why she loves the great outdoors for visuals, a deep dive into her songwriting process, her future ventures and more, I spoke to Keed and I’m more enriched and inspired for it.

Q: One thing your music reflects is the street savvy, resourcefulness and liveliness of where you are from. That wasn’t always present in your music. Why did you decide to embed the intricacies of Gugulethu and Vernac into your music?

K.KEED: That’s actually an interesting question, one I haven’t been asked before. I remember a time when I was in the studio with my friends, and my cousin was making music across the street. You might not know this place, but it’s called Crossroad. My cousin then introduced me to another studio, China Studios, where an established artist suggested, “why don’t you try rapping in your vernac?” At the time, I didn’t fully grasp the idea. I was focused on proving myself in the music industry as a newcomer. I had this universal approach in mind instead of targeting my local scene first before conquering the world. My outlook was all about proving myself to everyone and having my music heard everywhere.

So, the idea was planted, but I didn’t see the vision back then. I saw big stars like Dee Koala making waves, which was inspiring. I thought, “If they can do it, so can I, and I’ll  stay true to myself.” This realisation made me look at things differently, especially considering the scarcity of female artists in this space. I decided to embrace my native language and give it a crossover twist, particularly for my Alter Ego project, where I was keen on experimenting.

The people I worked with always encouraged me to push the boundaries. The streets where I grew up and the influence of my friends from the hood played a significant role because I’m always there. I realised that incorporating this element and giving people insight into my background through my music was fun and made my tracks more relatable. It’s like a musical journey through my life. That’s how I got into this, by trying a fresh and unique approach to my music.

Q: Has being able to represent yourself and where you’re from on a global scale made you stand out more in the global market than having to prove yourself amongst other English rappers across the globe? 

K.KEED: Yeah, I’d say so. Focusing on refining your sound and taking a different approach while making a big impact in your country and city naturally draws the rest of the world in. When your whole country and hometown backs you, it says much about your music. Then the world starts asking, “Who’s this artist from South Africa?” They come to you rather than you chasing after them aggressively. It’s like you’re attracting attention rather than pursuing it.

So, it’s the way to go. It’s more genuine and when it does happen, it feels pretty unbelievable. You didn’t think it was possible, but when it does, it’s the most natural thing. Everyone has their own journey and this just feels right for me.

Q: Between standout collaborations with Dee Koala and Blxckie and frequent collaborations with LOOKATUPS & SimulationRxps, you have established yourself as a master curator with a knack for feature chemistry. How did you develop this 6th sense that enables you to choose the right feature and the ideal production for them to flex their skillset?

K.KEED: When I’m deep into the creative zone, I’m all about making the song the best it can be. I don’t get hung up on my own ego or trying to outshine anyone. It’s all about what serves the song, you know? I’m lucky that most of the folks I work with are friends, people I kick back with even when we’re not making music.

For me, it’s all about keeping it real and doing right by the song. I don’t have a big ego and I’m not intimidated by others who are killing it. If they do well, it inspires me, and if I bring my A-game, I hope it fires them up, too. It’s a two-way street and I love that vibe.

If I struggle to finish a song alone, I’m not afraid to hit up a friend and say, “Yo, I need your skills on this verse because I’m stuck.” It’s all about finding that missing piece.

I like to keep things comfortable and open with my collaborators. When you have a solid relationship, it shines through in the music, and people can feel it. It’s all about having fun, building connections beyond the music, and creating killer tracks together.

Even when someone asks me for a feature, I’ll give their song a good listen. I want to figure out how to make it even better and fit into its vibe. It’s always about the music for me, not about ego or competition. I genuinely believe that if you take care of the music, the music will take care of you.

Watch “Skeem Sam” Video Here:

Q: From the “Goblin Freestyle” to the “Tx3” series, “R E L I G I O N”, “ALTER-EGO”, & “IZANDLA”, there has been a well-curated evolution of sound where you experiment but don’t compromise on your core sound, what went into selecting your signature sound over the years?

K.KEED: It all started in high school when I chatted with a buddy who hyped me up to create music. But deep down, I knew it wasn’t the exact sound I wanted to make. I knew there was more to my musical identity waiting to be uncovered.

Then came this dude named ZB, an absolute legend in the music game. He’s a producer, engineer, artist, and a crazy talented songwriter. He lived just a short walk from me and I’d always hang out with him. He’d record my stuff for free, send me beats, and offer advice that wasn’t just a “yes man” move. He’d be straight with me, saying, “nah, man, maybe try it this way”. I love working with people who push me in the right direction.

And then there’s this other guy, Orange, a real game-changer. He revolutionised my sound. I owe him a solid 50% credit for how my music sounds today. My mixing and mastering have been on another level since I met him. It’s like he turned my tracks into crispy, clean gems. He’s the kind of guy who sits down with you and says, “this is the note you want to hit, or this is the direction you should go.” He’s had a massive impact on my sound and the technical side.

I’m my most genuine self in the studio with Orange. It’s a safe space to create, experiment, and be 100% me. He’s been one of the most influential people in shaping my sound. From my first project,  “R E L I G I O N,”  to my latest one, “IZANDLA”, with J-Smash, he’s been the magic behind the mixing. We sit together, tweak things, and he’s there to guide me. It’s been a mind-blowing journey, and I’m still on my way to reaching my full potential.

But honestly, it’s not just about ZB and Orange. My sound has evolved through collaborations with many producers, engineers, and mentors. They’ve shared their wisdom, given advice and helped me grow. It’s been one crazy, ongoing journey of learning and teaching. 

Q: Going back to the J-Smash Collaboration EP “IZANDLA,” a standout song is “Lonke”, with guest production from Yolophonik. It made me think of your previous Boiler Room and made me curious: with such a drastic change in creative direction, would we expect more of this distinct sound in your future sets?

K.KEED: That’s seriously one of my all-time favourite tracks. I could easily have it on repeat for days. Many of my musical influences stem from it and I’ve been itching to work on something like it for a couple of years. The thing is, I’ve been recording loads of different tunes, but I’ve been holding back on releasing this one. Are people ready for it yet? I’m a perfectionist and am particular about how things should sound. It stays locked away in my musical vault if it doesn’t meet my standards. But who knows, in the future, I might become more open to sharing it and incorporating it into my evolving sound.

Can you expect more of this sound in my future sets? Definitely, bro! I’ve been keeping this under wraps, but I’m taking my performances to a whole new level. Next month, I’m planning to introduce something special at Daisies. I’m all set to make waves and leave everyone in awe. With the new music I’m about to drop, you’ll see a more mature and authentic side of me. It will be beautiful, and I believe it’ll surprise everyone and make them proud. I can’t wait to share it with all of you!

Q: So, about being at this year’s instalment of Rocking The Daisies: when it comes to performances, how do you prepare for a club performance, a street fest and a Global Festival such as RTD? What goes into the set selection?

K.KEED: That’s a really good question because they’re such different experiences. I’ve got a great team and we’re all about coordinating everything for each show, from the setlist to the outfits, the stage setup, and the vibe I want to create that day.

Clubs can be tricky because people mainly want to groove to the DJ’s music. In such a setting, I focus on dropping some absolute bangers, the kind of tunes that get everyone moving and feeling the energy of the place.

On the other hand, if it’s more of a street festival vibe with a younger crowd, we adapt to what they’re into. We hold rehearsals with my team to fine-tune things and add some intros, outros, and extra instruments to set the right mood for the performance. It’s all about those small details that make a big difference.

When it comes to festivals, that’s when we go all out. We put on a show that people will remember. But honestly, I love giving my all in every performance, whether it’s for a crowd of 5,000 or just 10 people. You never know who’s watching and might be a fan in the making.

I take it very seriously, and I’m always excited to do more festival shows. It’s where I can really showcase my best. But honestly, performing is one of my absolute favourite things to do. I also like to research before each gig, checking out previous performances and studying the lineup to ensure I bring my A-game and meet the standards.

Q: Another performance that recently took the internet by storm was your ‘No Paperwork Freestyle’! Owing to the ongoing debate between a ‘freeverse’ and an ‘off-the-dome freestyle’, what is your stance on the importance of still being able to go off the dome? Is that craft still relevant? 

K.KEED: I hear you and I understand that defining a freestyle can be quite the puzzle in hip-hop. Initially, freestyling meant going off the dome, where you just let your thoughts flow, no script, no plan, rolling with the vibe of the moment. So, a freestyle comes with something other than a set theme or structure. It’s called a “freestyle” for a reason, right? You can go wild, switch topics, introduce rhyme schemes, and just let loose.

But here’s the twist: some folks interpret freestyling as crafting a prepared verse or a set number of bars. It’s like having a premeditated performance. So, there’s this divide in perspectives, and I find myself caught in the middle.

When you’re on the radio, and they throw you a beat, there’s no way to prepare for it, right? That’s when you go truly off-the-dome. But then there’s the competitive freestyle scene, where some artists meticulously prepare, which gets perplexing.

I enjoy freestyling because I don’t take it too seriously. People tend to overthink it, and that’s when the fun goes out the window. There is no need for standards; just go all out and let your creativity flow. Freestyles are sometimes overanalyzed. They should be spontaneous, a raw expression of art.

When it comes to being the best freestyler, I don’t quite see myself in the League of Legends like Eminem or Lil’ Wayne. I’m more of a songwriter at heart, and that’s how I got into the game. Writing is my jam, shaping my understanding of different freestyle perspectives as I dove deeper into the hip-hop scene.

Q: Would the off-the-dome approach to songwriting also filter into your studio sessions when composing songs, or is there a penmanship that goes into studio sessions?

K.KEED: I actually have different songwriting processes. Sometimes, it’s all about freestyling; I never put a pen to paper; I just go with the flow. But then there are songs like “Goblin,” which I wrote from start to finish. It depends on the day’s vibe and how I’m feeling. I avoid sticking to a single routine because I often collaborate with various people in different studios. Each producer has their own pace; some work lightning-fast, while others take it slow. 

So, I adapt to make the most of my time in the studio. Some artists can spend hours on a single song, but I prefer recording my initial ideas at the moment and then circling back to them or moving on to new ideas. I may dedicate an entire session to one concept. I enjoy having these diverse songwriting processes because they reflect my mood and what resonates with me that day. If I’m feeling a certain way or a particular beat grabs my attention, that’s what guides my creative process. It’s all about going with the flow and having fun in the moment.

Q: Another form of writing I appreciate is script writing, primarily concerning mood boards and treatments. Your latest single, “Struu”, has a setting similar to your street classic “PUTA” What about the woods that speaks to you as a perfect fit for visuals?

K.KEED: Absolutely, I do. You can achieve so much when you’re out and about. The scenery is a game-changer for me. It just adds that extra layer of depth to everything. Even if the video is already expertly graded and edited, it takes the whole experience up a notch when surrounded by captivating scenery. I mean, instead of shooting against a plain background in a studio, having the freedom to create your ideal setting with a real-life backdrop – that’s where the magic happens. 

So, having a killer song is one thing, but when you pair it with stunning visuals, it becomes an unstoppable force. I’ve got a real appreciation for the great outdoors, even though it can get wild sometimes. I love the thrill of shooting on location, travelling, and experimenting. I’m that person who, while taking a random stroll, can spot a forest or some amazing place and instantly think, “this is the perfect backdrop for a photo shoot.”

I’m a visual learner. When I cannot be outdoors, I’ll transform my living room into a set because I thrive on the visual aspect of things. It’s all about seizing opportunities and making the most of them, whether I’m in the great outdoors or bringing the outside in. 

Q: Thank you for joining us. Before you go, is there anything you have lined up in the near future that you’d like to share with us? What does the next year or two look like for K. Keed?

K.KEED: Oh, definitely! I’m pumped, bro. I’m currently working on my debut album, and let me tell you, it’s a whole new level of excitement. I’m putting my heart and soul into this album and am determined to give people something unexpected.

You know what’s got me so hyped? It’s the fact that I have no idea what to expect either. This is my first time dishing out a substantial body of work, and we’re going all out with the team, getting creative with the concepts. I just can’t wait for people to dive into the music. I’m not yet pinning down specifics as for the album release date. It’s coming next year, so keep your eyes peeled, but again, no need to set too many expectations.

There are many other things in the pipeline, too, but I won’t spill all the beans yet. You might even catch me branching into the art industry; I’m passionate about that. Exciting projects, killer collaborations, and some top-notch features with big players in the game – it’s all happening.

Innovating, daring, and transcendent are some of the best ways I would describe K.Keed. To be born into a generation that gets to experience her legacy in real time is nothing short of an honour; even if it it will be difficult to honour her request of having no expectations for what her future holds for us as eager listeners. Just this once, I’d like to enjoy the pleasant element of surprise! What a time to celebrate 50 Years of Hip-Hop tapestry.

Images by Ghilian Chevelu

Written by: King Cedric

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Dutch producer Feiertag releases his third album ‘Roots’

Oct 27, 2023 | New Release, Music

Joris Feiertag is a Dutch producer and drummer from Utrecht, who makes music that is a finely balanced blend of organic and synthesized elements, often using ingenious syncopated rhythms combined with instruments such as the harp and kalimba. 

Roots is his third album on revered German imprint Sonar Kollektiv. Having concentrated his attention on catchy hooks and a number of guest voices on his first, and deeper break- beat workouts on his second, Joris felt it was time to deliver something that sat comfortably in a space somewhere between the two. The LP features not only a plethora of vocalists from across the globe, but also sees the producer playing with obscure samples and sounds, as he attempts to discover a new direction and find that sweet spot between dark and light; major and minor; new and old; uplifting electronica and soul. 

The album format allows Feiertag to provide snapshots of not only his own personal life and experiences, but those of his musical collaborators. On ‘Queen & King’ Tru Thoughts recording artist Rhi spins a compelling tale of striving for independence and the understanding of self worth; on ‘Feel Me’, Nego True opens up about moving in with his partner and his ambitions to start a family; and taking it to the next stage, on Law Of Attraction, Washington D.C. indie hip hop outfit OSHUN tell the story about the joys and challenges of parenthood.

Feiertag by Eduard Nijgh

Elsewhere, the sonic partnerships provide simply a fresh amalgamation of sound, such as on Keep Your Head Up, where Noah Slee’s soulful aesthetic blends with Feiertag’s brooding, minor key instrumentation, or Ballon Sogni where traditional African balafon, ethereal choirs and Fallon Nioke’s uncompromising vocal delivery create something almost otherworldly.

Stream ‘Roots’ HERE

Press release courtesy of Only Good Stuff

Heavy-K Delivers A Captivating 3-Step Remix of Peta Teanet’s ‘Ka Valungu’

Oct 27, 2023 | New Release, Music

As part of his carefully crafted single release campaign leading up to the highly anticipated EP, celebrated South African musician Heavy-K is excited to present his latest musical masterpiece: a vibrant 3-Step remix of the beloved chart-topping track, “Ka Valungu” by Peta Teanet. Heavy-K, known as the Drumboss, has seamlessly infused an infectious 3-Step vibe into the original composition, creating an electrifying auditory experience that is set to captivate music lovers worldwide. “Ka Valungu” has already carved a niche for itself in the hearts of music enthusiasts, and Heavy-K’s 3-Step remix breathes new life into this well-loved song. The remix takes the essence of the original and brings a fresh 3-Step twist, showcasing Heavy-K’s unparalleled talent.

Heavy-K is rapidly emerging as the face of the 3-Step music genre, characterized by its unique rhythmic structure that centers around the distinctive sound of three kicks. This genre offers a truly African, unstoppable rhythm that is sure to get listeners on their feet and dancing. Drawing inspiration from the sounds of Amapiano and Afrobeat from West Africa, Heavy-K’s 3-Step sound fuses these influences seamlessly, resulting in a dynamic and captivating musical experience.With the release of this 3-Step remix, Heavy-K is pushing boundaries and taking the genre to new heights, further solidifying his status as a pioneer in the South African music scene.

This marks another exciting chapter in Heavy-K’s illustrious career, and his forthcoming album promises to be a musical journey that fans won’t want to miss.‘Ka Valungu’ 3-Step remix is now available for streaming and download on all digital services platforms. The 3-Step remix has been approved by Peta Teanet’s family, as well as Universal Music.

About Heavy-K 
South African record producer, composer and DJ, Heavy K – affectionately referred to by his fans as “The Drumboss” – has firmly positioned himself as one of the continent’s top entertainers. Growing up in Veeplaas in Nelson Mandela Bay, Heavy K has transformed challenges into big opportunities. Today, with four platinum status albums under his belt and a number of hits – including the chart-topper, “Inde” – Heavy K is the recipient of multiple awards for his Afro-house sounds which bring a drum-driven, infectious, nuanced African beat to a contemporary dance music consciousness.

Connect With Heavy-K: 
Instagram: @heavykdrumboss
Facebook: Heavy-K Drumboss
Twitter/X: @HeavykDrumboss

Stream Heavy-K’s 3-Step Remix HERE

Press release courtesy of Sheila Afari PR

adidas Originals x Bad Bunny Release collaborative sneaker ‘Response CL’

Oct 26, 2023 | News, Fashion

Bad Bunny x adidas put an exciting twist on an iconic silhouette with the launch of the Response CL. This design, full of surprises, is a reflection of the talented artist’s vision and passion. 

Benito always seeks a different angle and way to tell a story. When he feels comfortable in a space, he moves with The Paso Fino: that unique, elegant, and confident walk, towards the unknown because that’s where he can discover something new, and in that revelation, surprise us all.

This drop, inspired by a Western universe, is a reinterpretation through Benito’s style, using the desert as a territory that offers infinite possibilities. It is a seemingly distant place, but one that transforms and takes on new meaning for those who can perceive its full potential.

The Response CL colorway evokes the arid tones of the land, with a palette of browns in various shades and touches of deep purple. The textures and lines characteristic of the mountains are masterfully intertwined while maintaining maximum comfort and support, including the classic Response CL rubber outsole, three stripes and characteristic Benito’s eye.

The latest iteration of adidas Originals x Bad Bunny brings us one step closer to an artist who, in pursuit of telling a story, is not afraid of the uncertain. Benito invites you to embrace The Paso Fino with him – that unique, elegant, confident walk – and move towards the unknown with him, because it is there that you can discover something new.

The new Response CL will be available online, in selected flagship stores including V&A, Mall of Africa, Sandton on 28 October and will retail for R3299.00

About adidas Originals: 
Inspired by the rich sporting heritage of adidas – one of the world’s leading sports brands and a global designer and developer of athletic footwear and apparel – adidas Originals is a lifestyle brand founded in 2001. With the adidas archive at its foundation, adidas Originals continues to evolve the brand’s legacy through its commitment to product innovation and its ability to filter the creativity and courage found on courts and sporting arenas through the lens of contemporary youth culture. Marked by the iconic Trefoil logo that was first used in 1972 and championed by those that continue to shape and define creative culture, adidas Originals continues to lead the way as the pioneering sportswear brand for the street.

About Bad Bunny 
Bad Bunny is a multi-platinum recording artist, multiple Latin GRAMMY® and GRAMMY®  winner, who consistently manages to break international barriers and dismantle cultural norms, becoming a global icon of culture and entertainment. In 2021, he was named one of Billboard’s 10 most popular superstars in the world and earned the title of the #1 Latin artist of the year for a third consecutive year. In addition, after amassing an impressive more than 9.1 billion streams, he became the only Latin artist who, for two consecutive years, has been proclaimed the most listened to artist globally on Spotify – all of this without releasing a new album.   

In 2022, his tour “El Último Tour del Mundo” became the most globally successful tour of current times, selling out its 35 functions and breaking sales and attendance records. On the heels of his global success he released a new album, “Un Verano Sin Ti,” which became the second all-Spanish album to reach number 1 on the Billboard 200 Chart. The first album to accomplish this was Bad Bunny’s “El Último Tour del Mundo.” The album earned 356.66 million on-demand official streams in its premiere week, registering the largest streaming week ever for a Latin music album; it also set a record by posting its 24 songs on Billboard’s “Hot Latin Songs.” Currently, the megastar just kicked off his first stadium tour across the U.S. and Latin America, setting the record for the highest-grossing concert in each of the venues he has performed so far and the highest-grossing concert by a Latin act.

Press release courtesy of Playmakers

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‘Ukujaiva – To Dance’ A look at how dance culture is intrinsic to South Africa

Oct 25, 2023 | Lifestyle, Community

In the famous words of T’zozo “Ukujaiva, ngakqala ngimgaka (sho) ngabamgaka manje sengimgaka” which loosely translates to “Dancing? I started that when I was yay tall, now I’m here!”.  It’s no secret that the everyday Mzansian could easily audition to become the new dance captain of Beyonce’s crew, we’ve even seen this first hand in her forever revered music video, ‘Who runs the world (GIRLS)?’  where Bey is seen stepping swiftly into the beloved pantsula academy. Although famous for isipantsula, South Africa  isn’t like most other countries – it is not limited to one to two or three nationally recognised dances. Many would even argue that people from this country came out of the womb dancing. In a country of 11 official languages, it only makes sense that there is one language that is fluently understood and spoken  across the board; the language of rhythm. 

The history of dance in Mzansi predates that of us avid readers, going as far back as since the stretching of the first animal skin drums. Africa has had an unbreakable connection with the sound known as “isigubhu’’ – a dance that makes for an iconic storytelling combo, now clearly seen with the sensational amapiano’s ‘logdrum’ takeover. Throughout the ages, song and dance have not only been a source of entertainment but also a way to document history and relay messages, making it easier to pass on the vital information that helps preserve culture as generations transition from one era to another. Warriors did it with spears and shields en route and on the battlefield and once that dust settled, the women did it with a sultry shuffle and sway by the watering holes. Later on during the jazz-centric the mid-1900’s pata-pataring was happening all over by local taverns and shebeens and was a cultural, creative expression of the struggle for freedom.

By Cotton Bro Studio, courtesy of pexels

Amongst the many movements shaking up everyday life, most – if not all – of the country’s most groundbreaking dances stem from Black communities and townships taking ownership of their creative talents. Where they were once stifled under Apartheid law that forbade cultural expression and the intermingling of tribe and race, while restricting freedom of movement and self-actualisation, dance represents more than just the joy we experience as a people; it is our liberation. Dance and the enjoyment of it at the time was a profound form of rebellion. We see this with the more frank jump-step protest dance famously called toyi-toyi formed by people of South Africa as a phalanx against their then oppressors. Even in its evolution, dance is still seen as a tool to express and help document the times. One of the youngest of them all is the dance style that stems from the musical genre Amapiano – a slower-paced chimaera of deep house’s vast terrain and kwaito’s unabashed calls for expression – the Amapiano dances encapsulate that right now, the aim is not to sweat in a harsh working covid stricken economy. During a time of hustle culture with little to no reward, don’t sweat.

A natural healer is what dance is to the people and the proof is in the science, as written by health professionals on Dance – health benefits. Dance is a medicine that has no age restrictions, from gogo to your newborn. 

Movement is meditation. Dance can improve your body image and through learning different moves that coincide with your musical faves, one will soon realise that good dancing doesn’t come with mastering the latest TikTok trend but rather, it’s about feeling good and comfortable in your bodily capabilities.  It also encourages social bonding which is perfect for the socially anxious. When no words need to be said and just a shared joy over a fire tune is your ice breaker, the rest is easier to manoeuvre regardless of age, race, class or sexuality. They don’t call it ebumnandini (where the fun is at) for nothing. It’s said to be able to ward off dementia, as detailed in this piece on Dancing and Brain Health and this is probably why a lot of doctors recommend dance therapy among other body conscious activities like swimming and cooking, as ways to help retain the memories of their patients. I assume from the multiple senses stimulated during the advised activities, one’s memories can easily be triggered through an old song, smell or movement made in their younger years. Kind of like how I still have that random jingle stuck in my head that takes me to the summer of 2002 every time that I randomly think of it. 

Dance is also said to be able to facilitate a spiritual experience or at least foster emotional competence – dancing turns emotional experiences into art. So whether you’re dancing for rain or dancing because you’re in a rainy season in your life, know that keeping it moving and popping is a step in the right direction. Just shake it off and if not, shake with it!

Today dance has taken a whole form of its own, thanks to platforms such as TikTok and their constant nudging to ‘get out of your comfort zone’ with challenges such as ‘jerusalema’ (which took the world by storm) or the Bacardi Original ‘bheba’ which is now evolved to South African songstress’ Tyla and her Water challenge, created by Tyla’s choreographer Lee-che´ Janecke. Dance challenges are now competitive and new moves are picked up and adapted much quicker than ever. South Africa is still proving itself to be a leading contentender in this category, deservingly so and we have so many homegrown faves to thank for this. Starting with the late and ever charismatic Costa Titch and Killer Kau who, even though they’re gone too soon, have left legendary steps in the dance community of this country. One can only imagine the impact awaiting had they been honoured with more time on this earth. We also give mention to game changers such as Bontle Modiselle and Tarryn Alberts who started their own academies spreading the spirit of umjaivo to anyone willing to learn.

Along with Kamo Mphela, Lorica Cooper, Musa Motha, Trompies, Babes Wodumo, Lebo Mathosa, Somizi, Thuso Phala, Motsi Mabuse, Teboho “Tebza” Diphehlo, Lindi Mlaba, Gregory Maqoma and so many more…

The list is endless because like I said, it would seem that rhythm simply flows in the veins of the everyday South African.This is a language that precedes us and will continue to do so generations from now, because that’s what we Mzansians do: we not only keep moving forward, we shake things up along the way. 

For further reading:
Dance culture in South Africa
South African dance – News, Research and Analysis
How South Africa’s Dance Floors Provide Hope and Safety in the Face of Oppression

Written by: Thandiwe Magwaza

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TFG’s Online Platform Bash Launches ‘Meet The Makers’ to Spotlight South Africa’s Emerging Fashion Designers

Oct 24, 2023 | News, Fashion

Bash, TFG’s online mega shopping platform, is proud to support young South African designers with its ‘Meet The Makers’ series. The series showcases the first fashion collection from TFG’s Design Incubator Program, which sees ranges conceived by four exceptionally talented South African designers. The young creatives include Mbeko Nonkenge, Wandile Ngcobo, Kone Muthinge, and Andisiwe Vena. Each capsule collection launched on Bash on 6 October 2023 and is supported by a content series of editorial stills and behind-the-scenes footage. 

The Design Incubator Program provides a unique platform for emerging talents to showcase their creativity while making a positive impact on the environment. “Building the local economy by supporting up-and-coming brands is part of the broader TFG approach to sustainability and ties back to one of the UN-17 goals for economic growth. Bash’s whole approach is centred around innovation and entrepreneurship so we felt it was very aligned with our values and the platform itself, which has started introducing new brands to the TFG customer. It’s a great opportunity for young designers to access a broad customer base while not having to invest in their own stores.” Says Bash’s Head of Design, David West.

The four designers were hand-picked through a rigorous process, with collaborations with established and respected institutions like the Cape Town Fashion Council and SA Fashion Week. This ensures that Bash provides a platform for outstanding talent with long-term potential to excel in the fashion industry. “These designers were largely chosen because of how they would appeal to our existing customer base, offering them something fresh, local and unique.” West added. The Design Incubator Program provides a 6-month incubation period for the designers, fostering their growth and honing their skills.

Andisiwe Vena

Kone Muthinge

Wandile Ngcobo

Mbeko Nonkenge

Driven by their passion to transform their ideas into wearable art, Kone Muthinge described being part of the Design Incubator Program as an invaluable opportunity. “The program provided essential insights into the business side of fashion. Through workshops, I learned about production, and retail strategies that I was not exposed to before. This knowledge is pivotal in ensuring the commercial success of my designs.” says Muthinge. 

Through mentorship and assisted learning, designers were taught the importance of a sustainable approach to fashion and each underwent comprehensive learning about zero-waste design techniques. Mbeko Nonkenge found this part of the program insightful saying that “sustainable fashion resonates with me the most as my brand motto is: ‘Take care of our planet.” 

The market access opportunity through Bash’s over a million app downloads, is designed to create long-tail impact and allow the designers to establish a national presence, which is bolstered by some of the designers showcasing at the renowned SA Fashion Week. Speaking of aspirations, Wandile Ngcobo says; “One day I hope to own my own CMT and have a solid design team for my brand.” Andisiwe Vena added to this sentiment saying that “TFG and Bash has given me a foot in the door and helped me get exposed to the world of retail… I will use this opportunity to make my brand bigger.”

See the Meet The Makers collection on Bash here
Follow @friendsofbash on Facebook, Instagram and TikTok to access Meet The Makers content

Press release courtesy of MOOD creative agency

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The Celebrification of the Creative Director role

Oct 23, 2023 | News, Fashion

Today it was announced that A$AP Rocky has been appointed by sporting giant Puma in the role of creative director for the brand’s partnership with Formula 1. The multi-licensing deal between F1 and Puma is set to catapult the F1 brand into the sartorial stratosphere: as both institutions look to capitalise on the convergence between streetwear and motorsports. 

As Business of Fashion’s Daniel-Yaw Miller wrote, “The first products of the partnership will come in the form of a limited edition Puma and F1 collection of accessories and apparel, set to be released at the inaugural Las Vegas Grand Prix in late November, according to Puma chief executive Arne Freundt. Teaser images show Rocky sporting a co-branded black tracksuit from the current Puma-F1 collection, as well as racing gloves and a pair of red, orange and white Puma “Inhale” sneakers.” In the upcoming year, Rocky is set to create a range of exclusive capsule collections associated with prominent Formula 1 events taking place in the 2024 season.

Looking ahead to the 2025 season, Puma envisions granting A$AP expanded creative authority in the Puma-F1 collaboration, utilising his involvement and fashion-tastemaker status to shape the design of race apparel, fan merchandise and cutting-edge fashion collections.

A$AP Rocky for PUMA X F1, Business of Fashion

This is the latest in a string of celebrity appointments to major fashion brands. Other examples include Pharrell at Louis Vuitton, Future at Lanvin or Kendall Jenner as the creative director at e-commerce giant FWRD (a role she stepped into in 2021 and continues in) and – Kimmy K co-designing the ‘Ciao Kim’ collection with Dolce & Gabbana for Spring/Summer 2023. Then there’s Dua Lipa’s Versace collection and Beyonce’s Balmain collection.

Major discourse has run rampant across fashion-spheres – is this just the new era of celebrity endorsement? What does this mean for the future of designers and creative directors, looking to make it in an industry that prioritises fame? With impossible schedules and job descriptions already, what do we imagine a celebrity can offer a brand and its production process? Is this pattern as lucrative as the trend of appointments suggests? We leave these questions for a broader discussion in the future – but for now, let’s see what A$AP can do for motorsports…right?

Pharrell, @pharrell IG

Future, @future IG

Ciao Kim Campaign featuring Kim Kardashian, @dolcegabbana IG

Beyonce for Balmain,  @balmain IG

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Are you having a Quarter-Life Crisis?

Oct 23, 2023 | Lifestyle

It hit like a runaway train; a sense of existential dread that’s frankly impossible to capture in words. Three years ago, to this very week, I had my 25th birthday. This was back when Oom Cyril still had us on a semi-tight leash and the COVID-19 pandemic still rampant. I woke up in a cramped Airbnb that I had gotten stuck in for far longer than I would have liked. I had no sense of excitement with no real aspirations of what I wanted in the present or the near future. Despite my family’s and loved ones’ best attempts, I didn’t feel special or seen. All I felt was lost. My quarter-life crisis had hit and let’s just say I’m still getting rag dolled on the regular by this cold, cruel bitch.

The truth is – the cute, neatly considered script I had carefully curated mentally in my teens had simply not become a reality and my life was nowhere near it. I didn’t picture the white picket fence with an Afrikaans girl in a sundress, two kids and a Golden Retriever waiting at home for me, but I had just imagined more. More stability, more financial freedom and more life experiences in general. The reality was far more bleak. I felt creatively stifled, constantly questioning how secure my meagre paying job was and I had recently been told by the person I was seeing that she simply had zero feelings for me (only a couple of days before my birthday, mind you). OUCH!

So I did what any sane, kind of insane person would do and booked a week long trip to Cape Town with nothing but escapism on my mind. It was a week filled with untamed, unadulterated debauchery involving copious amounts of whiskey and wine, Iggy Pop’s Radio Confidential, an intoxicating short-term sexual relationship with a model and a butt plug (but that’s a story for the memoir).

Image by Nick Fancher, courtesy of DTS

Chaotic as all this may sound, it did lead to a semblance of clarity for me with what I wanted going forward in both a professional and personal capacity, at least short-term. As therapist Satya Doyle Byock mentions in an article for the New York Times, “We’ve been constrained by this myth that you graduate from college and you start your life,’ she said. Without the social script previous generations followed — graduate college, marry, raise a family — Ms. Byock said her young clients often flailed around in “a state of extended adolescence.”

Which brings us to the big question: what the fuck are we all even suppose to be doing right now? The big question simply raises a litany of smaller, more convoluted questions on how to cosplay being a functioning adult successfully. Should I have life policies in place that will pay out when I retire? Should I have started using retinol earlier? Should I start using retinol now? Should I have a will? Should I be on the property ladder? How do I get on the property ladder? Or should I say ‘fuck the conventions’ and do the best Eat, Pray, Love impression that I can muster – travelling around the world making memories while meandering through monotony with minimal responsibilities?

There is no one-size-fits-all solution. Also, unlike your favourite out-of-touch-with-reality social media influencer, I recognise that giving overarching advice would be nothing short of irresponsible. Simply put, I am a mostly faceless online asshole who writes silly little one-liners and gets paid for it. I am in no position to give any form of financial or lifestyle advice, particularly because I myself am somewhat loose with my finances: see Casey’s Cape Town sexcapade from a couple of paragraphs ago as an example. From that shortlist of lingering questions, the only one I would say you absolutely should get on ASAP is retinol (I’m in my skincare era, besties). For the rest, we need to consult our elders, those who have been there and seen that. I’m not saying take every single detail to heart – our parents and grandparents lived in a very different world – but their insights can still be pretty valuable.

Image by Nick Fancher, courtesy of DTS

Image by Nick Fancher, courtesy of DTS

I’m about to hit you with the whole ‘comparison is the thief of joy spiel’. Cringe as it may be, this truth is plainly and simply the case. We must look inward and cut out the news of all the outward influences. Fuck the bloke bragging about their bug-eyed BMW, fuck the endless holiday trips, engagement announcements, apartment acquisitions accompanied by the obligatory “We did a thing” caption. You are not lagging behind or failing because you don’t have x,y and z (yet). The sooner we realise that there is no universal timeline, the sooner we can breathe. We are often our own worst enemy, placing enormous pressure on ourselves to have every little detail of life figured out, making ourselves go mad trying to micromanage the absolute uncontrollable chaos of everyday life. Psychotherapist Tess Brigham suggests in her article in Forbes that we should “PAUSE- Practice mindfulness, acknowledge your past, understand you now, stop judging yourself and enjoy the process.”

Admittedly this is one of those acronym buzzwords that make my skin crawl because it sounds like some shit anti-drug campaign you’d hear about in Life Orientation class, but it does touch on a couple of crucial points. There is a focus on reconnecting to self and allowing that to be the guiding factor. Do what feels right to you, and “right” is a vast spectrum. If you want kids and can afford to give them the life you want, go for it. If you want to prop up your looks for a couple more years with some preventative Botox, be my guest. Do you want to try and swindle money from your former high school peers with a “great business opportunity” because you find yourself caught in a pyramid scheme? Kindly fuck off. I’m not talking to you here.

To my mind, the quarter-life crisis is simply a crisis of time. Time which, yes, passes but something to which we give far more meaning to than it deserves. It’s always a case of “I need to be here by that age. I need to achieve this by ____.” rather than accepting and acknowledging that maybe, just maybe, all we need to achieve what we want is a little more patience and a little less focus on some socially constructed timeline.

Do as best as you can because that will always be more than enough.

Written by: Casey Delport

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